Slipped after quitting? What to do in the next 24 hours
You were doing well, and then you vaped, or had a pouch, or bummed a cigarette. Now you feel like you've wasted everything. You haven't. Here's what the research says about slips, and a plan for the next 24 hours.
If it just happened: get rid of whatever is left, don't buy more, and don't decide anything big tonight. Then read on. Smokefree.gov puts it plainly: you have not failed, and you're not back to square one.
- A slip is not a relapse
- The real danger is what you tell yourself next
- Most people take more than one try
- The next 24 hours
- If it's been more than one slip
- What about your streak?
- Common questions
A slip is not a relapse
A slip (sometimes called a lapse) is a single use: one vape session, one pouch, one cigarette. A relapse is going back to using regularly. They're different things, and the gap between them is where your quit is won or lost. A slip only becomes a relapse if the next day looks like the old days.
The days you went without still happened. The cravings you rode out, the triggers you learned, the mornings you got through: you keep all of that. Smokefree.gov's advice after a slip is to be proud of all the times you didn't use, figure out why it happened, and get back on track.
The real danger is what you tell yourself next
Psychologists have a name for the "well, I've blown it, might as well keep going" feeling: the abstinence violation effect. In a classic 1987 study of people quitting smoking, those who went on to relapse fully tended to explain their slip as proof of a lasting, all-round personal failing.
Newer research adds a useful twist. A study that tracked 203 people quitting smoking through 1,001 lapses in near real time found that the clearest warning sign was a drop in confidence: when someone's belief that they could stay quit fell after a slip, the next slip came sooner. Guilt and self-blame didn't predict relapse in the simple way you might expect.
So the job after a slip isn't to punish yourself, and it isn't to pretend it didn't happen. It's to protect your confidence with something concrete: a reason the slip happened and a plan for next time.
Most people take more than one try
Quitting is rarely one clean attempt. Smokefree.gov notes that many people try to quit several times before they quit for good, and that setbacks are a normal part of the process. A Canadian study that followed smokers for up to three years estimated that, for many people, it may take 30 or more attempts before one sticks. The research is on cigarettes, but the lesson carries over: a slip means you're in the middle of quitting, not that you can't.
The next 24 hours
- 1Get rid of what's left. Bin it, don't drawer it. A vape in the drawer turns tomorrow's craving into an easy decision.
- 2Say "I slipped," not "I failed." Same event, very different next day. You're describing something that happened, not delivering a verdict on who you are.
- 3Debrief in three questions. What was happening right before? What were you feeling? What will you do the next time that exact situation shows up? Write the answers down.
- 4Update your if-then plan. Turn the answer to question three into a rule: "If I'm at a party and someone offers, then I'll say I'm good and get a drink." Our cravings guide has more on building these.
- 5Tell one person. Not as a confession, as a check-in. "Slipped last night, back on it today."
- 6Restart right away. Smokefree.gov's advice is to restart quitting today, or tomorrow at the latest. Not Monday, not next month.
- 7Add support if you were going it alone. Nicotine-replacement therapy raises quit rates by 50 to 60 percent in smokers, and in the real-time study above, people on nicotine patches slid from one lapse to the next more slowly. A free quitline (1-800-QUIT-NOW in the US) can help you make a plan and sometimes get quit medication.
A debrief, not a reset button
Unhooked's slip debrief walks you through those three questions in a couple of minutes and turns the answer into a plan. Your lifetime days free and best streak stay on the record. 3-day free trial.
If it's been more than one slip
Maybe it's been a few days, or you're fully back to using. That's okay too, and it's more common than anyone admits. Smokefree.gov's advice for this exact situation: feel proud of the time you went without, think about what helped and what pulled you back, and restart as soon as you can.
If quitting completely feels too big right now, it's still worth staying in motion: pick a new quit date within the next week or two, cut down in the meantime, and use the time to plan for the triggers that caught you. Our guide to cold turkey vs tapering can help you choose how to come at it this time.
What about your streak?
Day counters are motivating right up until you slip, and then a lot of people stop opening the app rather than face a zero. That's backwards: the moment after a slip is when support matters most.
Whatever you use to track your quit, it helps to keep two numbers in mind: total days free across all your attempts, and your longest run so far. Neither of those goes to zero after one bad night. Each attempt is a lap, not a whole new race.
Common questions
Does one puff ruin your progress?
No. A single slip doesn't erase the days you went without or the skills you built. What matters is what happens next: get rid of what's left, work out what triggered it, and restart right away.
What's the difference between a slip and a relapse?
A slip, or lapse, is a single use. A relapse is going back to regular use. Most slips only become relapses when they are followed by "I've blown it anyway" thinking, so treat a slip as information, not a verdict.
How many times does it take to quit nicotine?
Often more than once. Smokefree.gov notes many people try several times before they quit for good, and one study of smokers estimated it may take 30 or more attempts for many people. Each attempt teaches you something about your triggers.
Should I reset my quit counter after a slip?
That depends on the tool, but it helps to track more than one number. Total days free across all attempts and your longest run both survive a slip, and they reflect your progress more honestly than a counter that drops to zero.
Will cravings come back after a slip?
A slip can stir cravings up for a while, which is one reason to get rid of what is left and restart right away. Use the same tactics as before: wait a few minutes, move, breathe slowly, and follow your if-then plan.
Keep reading
Sources
- After a slip: Smokefree.gov, Get Back on Track After a Setback · Smokefree.gov, Dealing With Vape Cravings
- Abstinence violation effect: Curry S, Marlatt GA & Gordon JR, Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology (1987)
- Lapses in real time, confidence and nicotine patches: Kirchner TR, Shiffman S & Wileyto EP, Journal of Abnormal Psychology (2012)
- Number of quit attempts: Chaiton M et al., BMJ Open (2016)
- Nicotine-replacement therapy: Cochrane Review · quitlines: CDC, Top 10 questions about quitlines
This guide is educational and not a substitute for medical advice. If you'd like clinical support or medication to quit, talk to a doctor or pharmacist, or call 1-800-QUIT-NOW (US) for free coaching.